THE DUALITIES OF SHAME Attraction Aversion Self-punitive Depression Judgmental Negativity Shrink, hide Self as worth- less Rigid self- view Condemn Mortification Denigrate Self-hatred Severe Imbalanced Self-forgiveness Choose life Surrender to God’s Mercy Let go of posi- tion Be visible Affirm gift of life Correctable, flexible Forgive Choose self- worth Honor self Self-forgiveness Benign See both sides